It’s 11:30 p.m. You’ve had a solid day. You hit the gym. Crushed your work goals. Smoked a joint to unwind. Scrolled through your Insta feed, maybe watched some porn. You’ve checked all the modern boxes for “self-care.”
So why do you still feel… flat?
If you’re grinding, smoking, and scrolling your way through life but still feel stuck, you’re not alone. Burnout in men is rising, with many running on autopilot, using productivity, weed, porn or endless feeds to numb out rather than tune in. Avoiding your emotions is not the same as mastering them.
The new normal: numbness disguised as control
In a world where men are expected to be self-sufficient, strong and stoic, it’s easy to fall into routines that seem productive but are actually ways of avoiding deeper discomfort. Work becomes a distraction from feeling lost. Weed becomes a shortcut to escape. Porn and social media offer the illusion of connection, while keeping real intimacy at bay.
None of these behaviours are inherently bad. But when they’re on repeat like endless scrolling or compulsive workouts, they can act as emotional silencers, keeping you functional but disconnected. According to Movember, 33% of men feel pressure to appear emotionally strong and avoid asking for help. Many won’t reach out until they hit a mental health crisis point, but by then, relationships are strained, purpose is blurry and confidence has taken a hit.
The hidden cost of numbing
Men are nearly three times more likely to die by suicide than women (ONS, 2023), yet they’re far less likely to access the tools that could prevent this. So what’s the alternative? Coaching. Real, structured, 1:1 support for personal growth. Not the fluffy motivational kind. The grounded, practical kind designed to move you from intention to action, without the judgment.
Pitstop’s new 1:1 Coaching feature is built for exactly this. Whether you’re trying to find your next career step, shift self-destructive habits, improve your mindset, or simply feel more in control of your life, coaching helps you build a roadmap to reach peak potential.
The best part? You can do it all from your sofa. Just download the Pitstop app, head to the Coaching tab, and complete a quick onboarding. You’ll kick things off with a discovery session to identify your key focus areas — career, mindset, health, relationships, or wherever you’re stuck. From there, you’ll build a tailored action plan with your coach, supported by regular check-ins and free access to in-app tools like habit tracking and journaling to keep your progress on track.
And this is just the start. A full coaching marketplace is coming later in 2025, with access to performance coaches, sleep coaches, sexologists, longevity experts, and more.
This isn’t therapy. It’s a reset
Coaching for men is about creating momentum for the future. It’s for the man who’s functional, but not fulfilled. Who’s surviving, but not thriving. And it works, especially when paired with the right tools.
If you’re tired of the endless scroll, of chasing dopamine hits that never satisfy, and routines that look “healthy” but feel hollow, it’s time to try something different. With Pitstop you get two free months of 1:1 coaching when you start an annual subscription – giving you structure, accountability and a place to figure things out without going it alone.
We’ve also put together a free guide that explains more about our coaching model, who it’s for, and how to get started.
Grinding. Smoking. Scrolling. You can keep doing all three. Or you can start feeling again. Pitstop is here when you’re ready to move forward.
